We don't cry for nothing....'cry' is a verb (action) that we know how to use it in sentences. Yes, but it should have its subject. We rarely use 'cry' to instruct or command, am I right? Have you ever asked someone, like, "Cry! Cry! Please cry now! Cry!". I haven't. If you answered yes, you are the most sengal person in this whole wide world.
Why? ...because we can't be forced to cry.
Crying comes with nature, and it is related to emotions. We often cry whenever we feel upset, sad, happy and even too angry. And so the teardrops fall, moisturizing the cheeks, finally stop at the chin....Then, one drop falls on the ground to be absorbed by the earth, to fade the agony & pain away.
But some people cry because they are too happy. Malay people say terharu (touched)...chewah!Do you cry often when you regret over something? Don't cry over the spill milk....don't cry, because it's over. (Whatever the reason is...)
Regret?? It sometimes means you lose something/someone. Worth or not, you'll decide. Yes, to cry for the deceased (who's passed away) is worthy enough, of course. Malay people say, 'don't cry in front of mayat, nanti mayat will cry too'....'don't let your teardrop fall on the mayat (face), it's a sin'. Really???!! NO....it's totally WRONG!! Even our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW once cried over his Sahabat's death (forgot who), and his teardrops fell on the Sahabat's face. Well, teardrops are not najis, are they? Tak batal air sembahyang pun......Hence, it's pure and clean. It seems a sunnah to cry over the ulamas' death and someone we truly adore/love (parents, perhaps). Yes, they are valuable....of course. But don't be too carried away. Two to three days are enough.....
Tears are too valuable to drop over some petty things. Think first before you cry; whether it worth to or not.
But, do you realize that after you cry, your eyes become more beautiful. They'll look like two sparkling stars. I tell you what, dear girls, a woman's eyes are the sword to kill a man's heart.....hehe. So, when your are out of money, go & cry in front of your father! (Now I use 'cry' to command..haha)
and for men, to cry is to sacrifice. What do you sacrifice when you cry? Yes, it kills your ego, masculinity and macho. However, in my opinion, it's not a sin for a man to cry because it shows how valuable/special the reason/person is...... Men have hearts too, don't they?
Girls keep treating men like they don't have feelings, sorry, it's nature. Women always beg for care, so they feel men must care. But remember girls, men are human beings too....born with non-stop heartbeats. Sometimes, treat men like they are women....they need care, not only to care. (Girls, I'm not suggesting you to give flowers to them....they will simply throw it. Bagai kera mendapat bunga..*no offense: I don't mean to say men are like monkeys...it's just a proverb.....tp monkey comel ape!!!)
In a nutshell, there is actually the strongest reason why we should cry for, which is 'our sins'. Indeed, Allah is ar-Rahman, the Most Compassionate, and ar-Raheem, the Most Merciful. We, human beings should always seek for HIS forgiveness and mercy so that no one would despair due to the amount of sins he may have committed. This is proven by the following verse of the Holy Quran:
"O My servants who have transgressed against their own souls, despair not of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful".
(Surah az-Zumar 39:53)